Analysis of straight man’s thinking and communication skills

Recently, a friend came to me in a hurry, his face full of depression, said that he was scolded by a girl, and finally was blocked. He held the bottle and his eyes were confused and sad.

I feel a little surprised, his appearance is not bad, IQ is normal, how can he encounter such a result in communication?

Not sure how to respond to a girl’s message? How does the straight man think? Analysis of straight man’s thinking and communication skills

Listening to him carefully, it turned out that through the introduction of a friend, he met a girl with outstanding appearance, it is the type he likes. He had thought that his pursuit would be smooth sailing, but things turned out to be beyond his expectations.

At first, the communication between the two was very pleasant, and he made the girl tremble with a variety of provocative words, and even changed to a pet name. But later, he inadvertently said, “You look like a friend of mine, very beautiful” caused a girl’s dissatisfaction. Then he added, “It’s very similar. She has a baby.” Since then, the girl’s attitude has become cold, and finally directly shield him.

I am puzzled by this. Asked why he would say such a topic, he looked blank, as if he did not know what was wrong with his words. Don’t most people see the problem with this statement? Or do we all agree that there’s nothing wrong with the phrase “You took a really good selfie today”?

In fact, the key reason why he was blocked was the “have a baby” comment. The problem with today’s selfies is the word “today.” For someone who hasn’t had a relationship, being said to look like someone who has already given birth can feel like saying she’s old anyway. Who would want to be described as such?

Going back to the selfie example, instead of saying “your selfie looks so good today,” say “Your selfie looks so good every time.” This expression is more appropriate and avoids the directionality of specific dates.

In the two streams, many remarks of straight men are often easy to cause misunderstandings and contradictions. The following is a few specific examples to in-depth analysis, how to be more appropriate in the communication with girls.

Humor and mood in the conversation are key to maintaining a relationship. Using a few intimate nicknames can quickly bring us closer together. When a girl is angry about something, the irony she says is really to get you to calm her down. At this time, if the boy can understand and take action, often can quickly resolve the conflict.

When a girl mentions that she’s sick, don’t simply tell her to “drink lots of hot water,” but show that you care and are willing to take care of her. If you meet a girl on the Internet, then a warm greeting and sending a takeaway will leave a deep impression on the other side.

Not sure how to respond to a girl’s message? How does the straight man think? Analysis of straight man’s thinking and communication skills

In romantic relationships, the current girlfriend often becomes hostile to the former girlfriend. At this time, boys need to give more encouragement and support, rather than follow the girl’s words. No matter how amazing the ex-girlfriend is, a guy should firmly say, “I only have eyes for you.”

The part about giving gifts is even more important. Don’t just express love with words or love words, but actually show it. Remember any likes or desires that girls have mentioned, and surprise them with a gift when the time is right. This kind of action will let the girl feel your heart and sincerity.

When girls are unhappy, we need to comfort rather than laugh at them. Any form of ridicule is taboo, once such a situation is basically no chance with the other party. Even if a relationship has been established, it will be because of such things that the favorability of both sides will drop to the freezing point.

When girls share their past unhappiness, they often do not want to get advice or blame, but want to get your understanding and support, so when we hear girls talk about the past, we should listen more, rather than express their own opinions or raise some irrelevant questions.

There is also an art to striking a balance between hobbies and girls. If you can’t reply to the girl’s message in time because of playing games or doing other things, or when you ignore the girl, please put down the things at hand, and wholeheartedly chat with the girl to coax the girl to be happy, so as to avoid unnecessary misunderstandings and contradictions.

Girls usually want guys to be more centered around them, so try to be this way when dealing with girls so that they feel valued and cherished. Once you are left out for a long time, girls will have dissatisfaction, and even put forward such questions as “you want me to still want it” to test your attitude, so when getting along with girls, please try to be ready at any time, and coax girls to be happy at any time, so as to avoid unnecessary trouble and regret.

Sometimes saying the wrong thing or making a straight male answer is not terrible, as long as we can remedy or circle back in time, we can avoid greater misunderstandings and contradictions, just like this successfully resolve the risk of girls angry, which is also a love skill!